No Hateration, Holleration in This Dancerie: Give Yourself A Break!

July 16, 2019

Let’s get it crunk, we gon’ have fun
Up on up in this dancerie
We got ya open, now ya floatin’
So you gots to dance for me
Don’t need no hateration, holleration
In this dancerie

I went to an Aunt Mary concert Sunday night. And you just never know fun until you go to a concert for people who are 40 and up. It’s amazing and the vibe is always right. I know I’m in the right building when I see no less than two white linen suits with Kangols when I’m in the parking lot, matching couples over the age of 47 and the distant sounds of “Heyyyyy, this my is jam!”

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But the real spiritual part of the Mary J. Blidge concerts is that she really be speaking that real. We not gone cry no more. We’re just Fine with no hateration in this dancerie.

“Don’t need no hateration, holleration In this dancerie.” I interpret that in two ways, one being “Your body” aka this dancerie is a temple and any negative energy (hateration, holleration) is toxic and needs to be dispelled. Or “Let go of the hurt, to allow good vibes to flow.”

Listen, this morning if you are allowing the past to hurt you, give yourself a break. But I want you to feel it, cuss that girl called the Past out and work on things that will help you improve what you are feeling. I think I saw on Twitter or Instagram where self awareness is a sign of self love. But it truly is, because when you are self aware, you see directly how to improve and move forward.

Also speaking of the past, my bestie Khalia (Check out her her Soundcloud because she is the best DJ out) told me that there was a eclipse happening. With this eclipse there are anxieties and stress from the past that come in to play but it is all ok.

I’m actually going to introduce a bit of Stranger Things (first and second season) logic to this article. (By the way, the Stranger Things has been putting me in my feelings. I’m on episode 5 of the the third season. It’s sad that Billy is so fine yet so evil. But I knew his ass was ever possessed or racist. I couldn’t choose lmfao)

Acknowledge Your Upside Down

For many of you who watch Stranger Things, you know what the Upside Down is. It’s an alternate, scary universe where the Demogorgon monster lives. So by this, I mean acknowledging the hurt or the ugly parts of you. That’s the first part of healing.

Where is the root?

Don’t let that hate steal your joy. Figure out where it’s stemming from. Personally, my hate stems from hurt, a little lack of self love and an unhealthy sense of competition . (Whew Chile, sounds bad but we all deal with it.) Do I have super low self esteem? Well, no. But do I look at others sometimes  and think, “Wow, I wish I could be like them.” Or saying “That was ok!” to something that was phenomenal because it’s not you. Or worst, have you ever witnessed someone that hurt you prosper and your situation is not the best? Your first reaction is always “Ew” or “God why are they prospering and I’m here struggling?” But you can’t compare yourself, foreal.

Side note:  I remember in 3rd grade I memorized the 66 books of the Bible in like 3 days for a 6 week competition.

I’ve always been like that.

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Set Fire to those Demogorgons 

Put pressure to your problems and work on letting the hurt go! It’s not easy but it’s possible. I’m still working on myself. I’m forgiving people who have hurt me. I’m actively working on self love and moving with intention. One of my favorite bible verses is Romans 12:2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”  When you renew your mind and clear your heart, you’re better able to connect with the Source. (God).

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Lastly…

Give yourself a pep talk 

I have to tell myself, “BITCH, YOU HAVE TO LET EVERYBODY SHINE! GOD GAVE EACH OF US TALENTS AND OPPORTUNITIES. YOUR TIME WILL BE YOUR TIME. AND YES, HE WILL STILL BLESS PEOPLE THAT HAVE HURT YOU IN THE PAST BECAUSE THEY, TOO, ARE HIS CHILDREN. IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT HE DID NOT HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE FOR WHAT THEY DID TO YOU. SO CHILL OUT, LET IT GO, GET SOME THERAPY AND STAY IN YOUR OWN LANE! YOU ARE THE ONLY YOU! UNIQUELY AND WONDROUSLY MADE! PERIOD POOH!”

Now go and have a productive day! Meditate and don’t give negative things your energy.

Also here is a great source for meditation. It’s a 21 day (now 20 day) journey that Oprah and Deepak do. Join me in this journey! 

xoxo NAVE

#ILOVEUSFOREAL

 

 

Author: Nave Sizon

Founder of Naveszn.com - I'm a FL native, a Howard and Columbia grad and a creator of many things. As a polymath, I do so much. I care about so many things. Naveszn.com was the perfect tool to utilize my gifts and my love for highlighting the talents and stories of black people and culture.